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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by Homura » Sat Nov 25, 2017 1:30 pm

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A degree in dental surgery may earn you a better job than your friends' degree does to them (or a degree of your ideal field does to you) in the future. I'm sure you've considered that, so am not gonna speak anything on that, but let me put it at the start anyway w

I believe most people in this world are having jobs not related to things they are very passionate about. But that doesn't mean they are all not content with their lives. For example, some actually don't think a job has to be about things they love but consider income the most important, some feel satisfied through other things in life such as having a good family, some feel content when having enough leisure time for hobbies, and so on. So in the end, it really comes down to this question, your job is gonna fill a great part of your life, are you the type who thinks it has to be about something you love, otherwise your life would never be truly satisfied and you would feel empty (like feel the meaning of your life has not been fulfilled) every now and then? If you know yourself and consider you are (or very close to) such a type, then you may consider changing your major, if your family would permit it. If you are not, then it's not necessary to change it. Anyway, two more things. In fact, I'm fully aware studying dentistry at university doesn't mean you will do dentistry in the future, you could still end up doing a job related to what you love. But that's not as easy as it sounds. Based on what I've seen, mostly, only people with the trait of being adventurous or unstable tend to succeed in giving up what they have been doing for years and starting anew. It depends on your personality. Another thing is whether what you want to do is also what you can actually succeed with. But if I'm not wrong, dentistry isn't something you're so good at, right? If studying it additionally would make you regret later, then I'd say a change is worth trying.

Actually, unlike what you said, I believe your heart or intuition should already know what you truly want to study/do, but it's probably things that lead to some harsh reality (?)>< I went through what you're experiencing when I was at your age, eventually, I changed my major at the start of my junior year. It was not the thing I exactly wanted to switch to at the time, but had to do some compromise. And it worked out fine so far. Lastly, your mood in doing the things you used to like will be back once you break the current situation, so think hard until you get your answer, and good luck! also welcome back~

Note: Above is just my personal opinion, in the end your heart makes the decision.
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by exec » Sat Nov 25, 2017 2:55 pm

Exactly what this Homuhomu guy said.
Decision without action = waste of time.
Action without decision = regret.
You need to have resolve to go through with your decisions.
Life is shit, but shit makes for a good fertilizer.(Unless it's human shit, then you should just get rid of it).
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by Karob » Sun Nov 26, 2017 6:00 pm

Tokei Shikake Tenshi wrote:And I've lost interest in a bunch of things that I used to like- including anime and gaming and writing and reading and I just don't know why this is happening. There's just very little that makes me happy. It's like everything is spinning out of control and I don't know what to do.
Perhaps it's depression? It happens to a lot of people, for a lot of different reasons. Sometimes it's just a phase that comes and goes. Sometimes it's heavily driven by circumstances. And sometimes it is a medical condition that's not so easy to address. If you can't figure out what's driving it yourself and it doesn't improve over time, you may want to see a doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist, counselor, or something.

Most of all, I'd encourage you to make sure you have some route of communication open with somebody, so that you can talk about your concerns and not feel overly isolated. I'd also encourage you to "keep doing things". When I stop for too long, I start seeing everything that's "all wrong". I start looking into my past and future and feeling despair over it, like I'm looking into a dark pit. I'm at my best when I can keep busy and live in the moment.
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by Grish » Wed Jan 10, 2018 8:00 am

Don't mind me I'm just here to whine some more about being single and lonely
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by exec » Wed Jan 10, 2018 8:38 am

You are on anime related forum, EVERYONE is single, EVERYONE is lonely and you need to point it all out!
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by Reverend » Wed Jan 10, 2018 5:05 pm

Grish wrote:Don't mind me I'm just here to whine some more about being single and lonely
why you even want one? real life spouse.
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by Grish » Wed Jan 10, 2018 8:40 pm

Reverend wrote:
Grish wrote:Don't mind me I'm just here to whine some more about being single and lonely
why you even want one? real life spouse.
can't snuggle 2D
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by Reverend » Thu Jan 11, 2018 1:25 am

Grish wrote:
Reverend wrote:
Grish wrote:Don't mind me I'm just here to whine some more about being single and lonely
why you even want one? real life spouse.
can't snuggle 2D
humanity has invented dakimakura.
Giving his love for life, and died dreaming about her in the end. A real happy man, right? ~
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by Grish » Thu Jan 11, 2018 3:56 am

Reverend wrote:
Grish wrote:
Reverend wrote:
Grish wrote:Don't mind me I'm just here to whine some more about being single and lonely
why you even want one? real life spouse.
can't snuggle 2D
humanity has invented dakimakura.
daki can't snuggle back
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by Chibasa » Thu Jan 11, 2018 7:28 am

Grish wrote:
Reverend wrote:
Grish wrote:
Reverend wrote:
Grish wrote:Don't mind me I'm just here to whine some more about being single and lonely
why you even want one? real life spouse.
can't snuggle 2D
humanity has invented dakimakura.
daki can't snuggle back
*snuggles back Grish*
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by Grish » Thu Jan 11, 2018 7:36 am

/me snuggles oniichan
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by HasbeenaHibiki » Fri Jan 12, 2018 4:43 am

Someone was streaming me on Twitch while I was playing Pokken and they talked shit about me on the stream while I was learning how to play Darkrai ._.
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by exec » Fri Jan 12, 2018 11:20 am

Well, what can I say, don't take it to heart, you will hear that kind of shit no matter what you do that has anything to do with public. That's why It's thought that work that has anything to do with people is most ungrateful.
You do okay, they shit on you; you do good, they shit on you; you do bad they shit on you; no matter what you do they shit on you, so don't take it to heart and move on, have a good day.
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by HasbeenaHibiki » Fri Jan 12, 2018 3:23 pm

exec wrote:Well, what can I say, don't take it to heart, you will hear that kind of shit no matter what you do that has anything to do with public. That's why It's thought that work that has anything to do with people is most ungrateful.
You do okay, they shit on you; you do good, they shit on you; you do bad they shit on you; no matter what you do they shit on you, so don't take it to heart and move on, have a good day.
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I agree with that but still it is disappointing my Pokken fighting game debut on a Twitch stream has to ended up being like that.
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by Grish » Fri Jan 12, 2018 6:54 pm

I'm sorry hibiki. It sucks when you're just trying to have fun and somebody decides to be a dickweed.
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by kurogaga » Fri Jan 19, 2018 1:10 am

This is the worst part of my life along the week. I got flu and severe cough that feel disturbed in any activities. And I had seen my smartphone to chat with dad, and he suggested to pick me up with online driver, because the saddest partis My uncle passed away 3 days ago because of Heart Attack. Oh no, I was so sad and feel frustated. After that, I went with my sister to funeral and he looks sleepy in the coffin. Oh my, RIP My uncle ;_;

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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by Grish » Thu Oct 18, 2018 7:01 am

Really sick of being sick. Also I don't get to have enough real-world interaction with other people (somehow, despite being very introverted and living with 3 - soon to be 4 - other people) and I am lonely very much of the time
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Re: bitter, depressed, weak, frustrated, but why?

Post by Homura » Thu Oct 18, 2018 8:41 am

Grish wrote:
Thu Oct 18, 2018 7:01 am
Really sick of being sick. Also I don't get to have enough real-world interaction with other people (somehow, despite being very introverted and living with 3 - soon to be 4 - other people) and I am lonely very much of the time
Hope you can get better soon, your place is too cold.
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Well as for the latter, Grish, continuing from the point I made to you last year, in the part few months I came to realize one more thing, all we need to do to start a one on one conversation with a person who also likes us is call his/her name, like "Grish~". A "trick" simple like this is a key to establish a long term relationship. As for topics, they will come naturally for two who fit each other (If don't believe, just test it out). Yeah I know, "too shy to even call his/her name", as someone who was extremely shy as a kid, I couldn't know that better. But as I grew older, my inner self came up with a no-runaway solution for that, "If in the end I can live perfectly fine/ok without ever talking to him/her again (I mean real talk), then he/she is not necessary after all, don't pretend that he/she is important." That sounds harsh but is also true. At the end it all comes to determination. I wish you best luck finding long term relationships that are unique to you, which is also the remedy for your loneliness.
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